Why does she act uninterested

So she acts uninterested, and let the guys who are interested to approach her, and from these guys who approach her, she selects the guy that she is most interested. However, by the time the guy has shown interest, the girl will generally show back sign of interests to the guy if she is genuinely interested in him. FreshOutaIdeas Explorer. Childish immaturity and entitled insolence, pushed by hundreds of years of Christian chivalry and modern feminist dogma, have created chicks that are simultaneously afraid of opening up to guys they're attracted to, and yet want the guys to "prove" themselves to them.

Salsacumbia Yoda. Its a shy thing and crush, and me i like to be extremely sure and very sure that he is really into me than me making a fool of myself and saying the wrong thing to the guy who is showing some interest in me. Nothing personal really, just testing the guy to see if there's a connection between us or not or just friendship only or nothing at all.

My own opinion, no one needs to agree with me. BeMuse opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. Because they don't want to act over eager A lot of times the more attractive you are also, the more they hold back because they don't want to feed your ego. There's nothing worse than a girl who wants to explode in laughter that is trying her hardest to hold it in just to not give in PastelPinkCherry Xper 1. I guess maybe that is what happens. JjBb91 Xper 2. Girls willing to admit it or not are much more fragile than a man and they don't want to show any sign of weakness so that would be why they act that way how guys if you're smart he'll pick up on that and you'll maneuver it to your benefit you'll make her feel comfortable she will open up she will tell you remember everything with tact and respect.

Lolli2 Xper 4. I certainly don't try to come off disinterested, but I may come across that way because I am shy and also because I don't want to appear clingy or get my feelings hurt, so I am probably a bit cautious around guys that I am interested in. But I never feign disinterest, and I do take initiative when I think there's a good chance he is interested too. RhythmAndHues Xper 4. Who says it's mind games? Maybe he or she is shy or bashful or something.

You also can't expect to just have things told to you. Courtship is exploration homie. Ask questions be involved Don't just go places and spend money. There's no harm in "I'm curious, how do you feel about me? Xper 7. Ambiguity and plausible deniability. If she doesn't know you enough yet she can say you're ugly and terrible in front of her friends when news comes out that dude has super AIDS and eats babies.

Lowers their sexual marketplace value to be 'aggressive' and forthright. They get off on being pursued and worshipped. Pejtu opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. A lot of girls don't realize they are looking to be "not interested" when they are, and we try to play it cool and make it seem like we are not as nervous as we are. Was into this girl until I found that out, and instantly lost any feelings for her. Well, mostly. Learn more about Thought Catalog and our writers on our about page.

Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. Once she saw you interact with other women, she wanted you a lot more. This topic has 2 replies, 2 voices, and was last updated 8 years, 4 months ago by Eric Disco.

Viewing 3 posts - 1 through 3 of 3 total. June 22, at pm Eric Disco Keymaster. June 23, at am I never get signs of interest from women. In my entire life I'm 34 , no woman has flirted with me or shown the slightest interest in me even once - not in high school, college, grad school or the workplace. Guys who get signs from women - however temporary - are lucky. Some of us just get to dream that a any woman will even acknowledge our very existence.

I've known this girl for a few years now though we have yet to meet in person. Over the last year we've grown a lot closer and I've been her emotional support. She's shy and very self conscious. I started developing feelings for her and I believe she's developed feelings for me. She used to always find reasons to message me and ask me questions about things etc.

Over the last month she seems to have gone a bit cold and distant. We are business partners as well and she no longer asks for my input on things which she always used to do. It all seemed to start when she took a trip on which I'm sure a few days were spent visiting her ex's parents.

I'm not sure if her ex was around or not but I know something that she has not disclosed made her terribly upset when she arrived at her destination to the point where she was crying. She has since returned and still seems a bit distant.

She emphasized "pretty" just as I did above. Now her family friends are there staying with her for a week, she doesn't know that I figured out that those "family friends" are her ex's parents. We've been communicating on an app that allows me to see when she's read my messages.

She responds to some and just reads others. I don't message her a lot, I never have. Using that app I recently texted her a very dirty sexual text message telling her that she's driving me crazy and what I wanted to do to her. She responded almost immediately with a bunch of embarrassed faced emojis saying she was surprised I had never given her any reason to think I was interested in her before and what I said to her seemed very out of my character and that she was happy about it, sent smiley faces, and told me not to worry.

After that it went back to her just reading some messages and not replying. So I tested the waters again and sent her another dirty sexual text about what I wanted to do to her. She just replied "Ha! So to test further I sent another dirty message and immediately after told her if she ever tires of me telling her what dirty thoughts I'm having when I look at her good or bad let me know and don't be afraid to tell me how she feels. She read it no response. So needless to say I'm still confused as to where she stands and I think her ex's parents visiting her may have something to do with it.

Any advice from a woman's perspective? So i've been dating this wonderful Japanese girl for a couple of months, we had our seventh date yesterday. She has a little girl, and doesn't get a sitter so she's with her daughter monday through thursday evening, then friday-sunday when her ex has custody she works nights at a restaurant and gets off at We've hung out either lunches or after she's off work. Then she'll be very warm over text usually immediately afterward, and then go cold-ish.

I know she's busy but she used to send me good mornings, and goodnights a lot more. We still text every day, but normally I initiate it now. When she's busy and doesn't have time or has to cancel plans she never has a counter offer. So i feel a little bit like i'm doing everything. Now that i'm writing this out it sounds like a conspiracy theory lol; but it's weird to me to feel stuck on square 1 after seven dates. At one point she talked about me meeting her daughter and hasn't brought it up since.

I make her laugh like crazy i do standup so it's not all that hard and I know she has fun, but part of me is exhausted from having the "hot first date" experience seven times in a row. This article is targeted to those in a new relationship. There should not be games after ten months, and I can understand your frustration.

I think that if you are serious about staying with this woman, maybe you should get some professional relationship advice, as it is not good for you to be in this situation. If a woman is deliberately playing games with you, I agree. However, I don't think it is always that simple. It is rare for a person to be without any insecurities, and often these are brought out when there is the potential for a relationship with someone really special.

I think that being understanding and reassuring at the onset of a possible relationship is the key. Once you have made it clear to her that you are interested in her and in having a relationship with her, the games should stop. If they don't, then there most likely is most a problem. Tips for men and Lesbians. If a woman plays games with you. It's a red flag!

She is not worth the headache or stress. Women like that are damaged, have low self-esteem, insecure, attention whores, need for control, etc. I've been seeing her for 10 months and its always the same - hot for a few weeks - all lovey dovey then cold as ice.

It drives me nuts. I am 15 and I had a really good friend in school for a few months but we both liked each other. It was really great and I could tell she really liked me but then we went for the holidays and didn't see each other for about 4 weeks and then on the first day back she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship and that being in a relationship stresses her out.

I didn't really believe that that is why she broke up with me and I assumed that after 4 weeks she had just lost interest in me but our friends say that she still likes me.

Every once in a while I think she might still like me but generally she seems quite normal. I keep trying to get over her but I see her every day and am getting mixed signals so I just feel worse and worse. I have no idea whats going on Does she still like me? Can I get her back? Should I just give up? Jimmy, You seem offended by my use of the word "complex". I was not suggesting that men are simple, just that women are more guided by their emotions, which makes their decision making process more complicated.

I don't believe that emotional equates to irrational, and there are benefits and difficulties associated with both types of decision making. When it comes to emotional response, I think the differences between men and women lead us to being able to find solutions that are both practical and empathetic.

Gg You were not stupid. If a girl who is already in a committed relationship deliberately makes you feel that you have a chance with her, that is not your fault. However, people men and women also playfully flirt just because they find someone attractive.

This is just human nature, and as long as the boundaries are clear, there is nothing wrong with this. It is when someone is deliberately deceived that it causes pain and becomes cruel.

Take heart. We all have past date experiences that we would rather forget. Look to the future and use your experience to help you find a girl who gives you the love and commitment you deserve. Khan, I can understand why you are confused. She is giving you a lot of signs, but this might be because, as you said, she is unhappy in her marriage and she might be looking for a boost to her confidence and an excuse to leave her husband.

Of course, not knowing you both, I can't give definitive advice, but you might find this article helpful. I hope that you find happiness! She is a married women and she is my relative the day when I saw her it was like whooooo! This story started when we were traveling together with my family she was sitting beside me and don't know she was intentionally allowing me to touch her body and my arm was touching to her tits and she allowed me.

After an hour later I couldn't control myself and my hand was on her thighs, again she allowed me. After that I called her and I asked is she angry on me for what happened?

She reacted as if we did nothing I thought it was a signal then straight away she pushed me and said no and left and she went outside and called me and said don't do this again its not correct.

I said OK! Then I couldn't control and started texting her and called her she used to answer my call and whenever I text her saying you look good in xxxx dress. She dresses up in that same way and when I text her about hairstyle she follows it. There are many thing I cant explain that she is attracted towards me but she never admits it and my problem is like you know I cant even share with my friends.

I just need a simple way how to make her admit and allow me. I know she is not happy with her husband I dont want to hurt her. I just want to make her happy for some moments because she is very nice humble and polite and obviously she is beautiful.

I dont understand what to do please help me out of this it would be great help! JMD, Thank you for your honesty. You must be feeling very sad and disappointed. It sounds to me like this guy had been played before by someone else and was sensitive about it happening again. So often potential relationships are destroyed by lack of communication, understanding and by our own or our partner's insecurities. Women are always being told not to come on too strong, not to be too obvious and to play hard to get, or a man will not be interested.

We're told that a man likes to chase a woman. Open, honest women are often portrayed as nerds, stalkers or desperate, or at the other end of the spectrum, as easy or promiscuous. Communication isn't easy when there is already a minefield of misconceptions to negotiate. I have flirted with someone whom I think is amazing and everything was going well, and he was touching my arm, and it was turning me on and I was enjoying everything but then:.

Because I moved away from the group to think more about what to do next, since I did like him SO MUCH and didn't want to jump in too quickly with all these pending factors looming, he assumed I didn't like him. I really just wanted a few moments to spend privately, to flirt and chat rather than in front of a group. I like PDA, but usually I prefer that in front of friends and family when things are clear between people.

If it were a bar or something, it wouldn't be so bad-- but these are important people, and every move was not something I would take lightly his mom was present. I was just trying to do things slowly and more intentionally-- with more verbal communication first.

He left and now, I think he thinks I was giving him the cold shoulder and trying to play him in front of our friends and his family. It's sad because I felt he was amazing in that moment, and I was so in shock that someone so amazing and magical appeared in my life when I least expected it. Then I thought so many things are up in the air-- I'm afraid he wouldn't understand. I guess he didn't. I just do not get this one girl currently, it's like she expects me to read her mind.

The thing is, the lesson I learn from this one girl 2 years ago, even the ones you might think they're into you, they will use you for the attention too. The same goes for putting energy into trying to woo her, or even in a friendship, being the one obvious trying to keep in contact, either relationship, isn't healthly.

It's likely that neither of you are compatible enough, one of youhas to change. Women are so immature. I dont trust the majority of them in a loving and caring relationship wise Well, I got into a relationship shortly after my previous post above from 10 months ago.

Although I feel things are going to end relatively soon, I must at least give myself credit for getting as far as I have with this girl, who was super closed off. She is 25 and I am her first everything.

The relationship is waaay too much to get into at the moment, but it's making me question whether or not I wish to try again. Yes, fact remains that nice guys finish last, BUT how was I supposed to act during the whole suicide attempt aftermath, especially when I was the only one there for her?

Needless to say, I did screw up a few times by being too nice and she tried to demote me to "just friends" status, but I was smart enough to know better than to accept that and walk away each time. She did end up coming and asking for me back each time. I'm not sure if the pain of leaving her will exceed the pain of being with her, but I'm on the verge of giving her keys back, taking my stuff and completely cutting her off.

And Elise, yes, I read your response. I appreciate it. However, I have to admit that being on the autism spectrum does affect relationships. It doesn't help that I've lost some skills while in this relationship because I haven't been approaching and practicing with as many girls, and this girl I am with is very closed off and stays to herself - and does so by choice, as she doesn't have social anxiety. I've made the mistake of committing too much to her and becoming too attached to her.

Not sure if she is attached to me though I do admit that some of the times she wanted to take a break or break up had to do with the fact that she had doubts about the relationship since I did hold back my feelings a lot and pretended to care less than I actually did. But then again, I did NOT get her attention in the first place by being a "nice guy," and I did notice that when I began to mess up and slide in that direction, that's when she would begin to lose some interest.

She used to get a little upset when I didn't text her at least every other day or tell her where I was going, but I knew better than to do things like that and become the nice guy who ends up just being a friend! I wont even get into more of this. It doesn't matter if she has any mental issues or not - all women are pretty much programmed the same psychologically.

This is the precise reason so many relationships end and people usually the guy are left wondering what happened or why she cheated or why she isn't responding or showing as much interest anymore. They simply stopped doing what attracted her at first. Therefore, the attraction she felt towards him also stopped as well. I have been seeing this girl who is doing this very thing and it's driving me nuts. I was casually dating her and it was going well. Once I was no longer dating anyone else she professed her love for me and said she was scared I might hurt her which is why she backed away.

We talked hypothetically about marriage, kids, churches, the whole nine yards. She dropped the "I love you" bomb all over the place. I figured I had landed a girlfriend and I was pretty happy about it because I really like the girl.

Then in the span of a week, despite "communicating" with her daily, it feels labored. Like I am the one sending the texts and making the phone calls and sometimes its hours and hours before she responds. I like the girl and am wary about dating other people because I don't want to scare her off again. But if she's not into me anymore then who cares. I just wish she'd spit it out, where are we at. Does she still love me or has she changed her mind.

My situation's a lil different, but similar to what I've read above. We had a great time for 2 weeks, she was all about me and all over me, when we last saw each other it was all smiles and amicable. Then outta nowhere she drops off the planet for a week and says she needs space and is acting hella cold and not giving me any actual reason behind it. It's weird cuz she's a logical girl and a feminist, so big deal for her to be in relationship.

I'm thinkin that she couldn't handle the strong feelings and how quickly we clicked together. Thoughts anybody? She has a problem with her relationship with herself, in short, she either does not know what she wants, or worse, has a deep rooted emotional crisis occurring at the subconscious level.

A mature woman who has inner peace and strength is a beautiful creature. Quickly, and politely, part ways while you seek a woman who knows what she is looking for, and has a mental state stable enough not to need male affirmation from the masses And do yourself a favor, be a MAN. You asked for examples of how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. This is for you:. All of the reasons given by herpointofview could equally apply to men who also go hot and cold.

It's not any fun to make people feel insecure or hurt people. It's crap. It will totally backfire. It is okay to challenge a bit, keep a bit of mystery and some guess work. But this is a very delicate balancing act. Overdo it and it will turn someone off for ever. This applies to both genders. Men play just as many games as women. There is a huge difference between playing manipulative games and trying to manipulate someone's feelings which ends up backfiring and gets no-one anywhere and being a little bit of a challenge, leaving some mystery.

An open book is not interesting. There has to be some mystery in order to create interest. And people do not value things that are handed to them on a plate. This shows just how immature girls really are and that they never mature into adulthood as quick as men.

Very few girls are down to earth until they become women which typically doesn't happen until they reach there late 20s or early 30s. What I find even more crazy is how much women hate it when men play them and then they get all angry and categorize all men are the same, but when they hear men saying all women are the same they are so quick to defend and say NO not all women are the same. Most women are a bunch of hypocrites these days and that's the real truth.

It's because of how society raises them to be. They are taught that it's fun to hurt guys and make guys feel insecure. Girls playing hot and cold with guys is fun. Girls confusing guys is fun even to the point where guys punish them. Guys can't stop thinking. They need to keep thinking. They're the ones chasing after girls. Girls want guys to be hurt and broken. And guys deserve to be treated badly, burned, hurt, and broken all the time while girls should always push guys' buttons, test, them, and challenge them too much.